Friday, June 11, 2010

Just be nice to people! It's really not that hard.

I think the one thing that we as humans need to brush up on is a little common courtesy. I think we get so wrapped up in our own lives that we don't stop and consider a smile or two. When was the last time you looked at someone in the eye in the grocery store and smiled? Better yet, when was the last time you looked at someone in the eye in the grocery store, smiled AND said hello? Oh my gosh, what a concept.

You do not have to be Chatty Kathy like I am (my husband says the one thing he loves about me is how I make friends in the bread section) and engage in a long drawn out conversation with someone. JUST.SMILE.AND.SAY.HELLO. and keep on stepping. I mean, you probably burn about 5 calories and work some facial muscles that need to feel the burn. And you have to admit that when you do smile and it is genuine, you do feel the burn, and it's nice.

Don't expect anything in return, and if you are uncomfortable, find older people to smile or speak to. There are so many of our aging people who live alone and have no human interaction other than going to the doctor or the grocery store (and my personal opinion? I think that's why our elderly spend so much time at the doctor or in the grocery store, just to have someone SPEAK to them). Really, look at how few items they have in their baskets, or look at how long they hold something and read it and kinda look around hoping someone will stop and say "hey, that's a good product, how do you like it?" in hopes of striking up a conversation. It's nice to have pets and all to talk to, but sometimes it would mean so much more if someone could actually engage an elderly person's mind. They have so much to share, and since Ruthie is gone (almost 14 years now), I appreciate the time I can spend with someone of age over a bag of rice or a loaf of bread. I mean, it's just a few minutes of your life, and they will treasure it. And so will you.

8 comments:

Savannah said...

very nice post...i've been living in small towns for a large portion of my life and I find people are a lot friendlier than in cities..I think people tend to be afraid in the cities more..as though if you make eye contact they'll come after you, i don't know..i love walking down the sidewalk with my kids and almost every person smiles and says hi..makes everyone's day so much nicer I think

Ruthie's Girl Designs said...

Savannah, I live in a small town too, and people generally are still very nice. Even in San Antonio (I live right outside of SA) people are still nice. I really do get a warm feeling when someone smiles at me when I smile back. I don't, however, let someone who does not reciprocate ruin my day or discourage me. I just smile even bigger for the next one. :D

Ilenia said...

Great post!!!!

I'm agree with you my girls...there is nothing better than smiles...

NeverTooOld said...

A kind and compassionate act is it's own reward

Vicki said...

Thanks for this great post! Just the other day, I had a conversation with a total stranger in the produce department. We were both trying to decide which package of baby spinach and romaine lettuce to purchase. We helped each other with expiration dates, etc. It was quite pleasant and so much more fun than standing side by side in silence trying to solve the same problem!

Ruthie's Girl Designs said...

Vicki - I do that ALL the time! I think it's so important for us to keep the human factor in our lives when so much is electronic and encourages us to be solitary beings, which is totally against our nature.

letamariedesigns said...

I am a Chatty Kathy like you. I have no problems talking to people any where of any age. You find out so many fascinating things that way. And I hope that my being friendly makes someone feel better ;)

Giani said...

CHURCH!!!!!